Routine and Convenience survival musts

My greatest learning this week is that i am going to need routine and convenience to survive sanely. 

 Mr Deceitful has now gone away for three weeks to Vietnam and I have my lovely three year old coming on thirty three year old to deal with (|Miss Moo) on my own.    When her dad goes away it always takes time to settle, but thank goodness for the realms of technology - skype saves the day.  When Miss Moo decides to throw a tantrum I just plonk her in front of the computer and tell her to tell her dad all about it - it is so funny listening to her conversations with him and the real great thing is that she can actually show him what she did during the day.  The good aspect about this, is that it rids of the tantrum and also rids of  the moment !!!

The next most customer centric thing I have come across is on line food shopping, whoever invented this is an absolute genius in my mind.  Food Shopping is not one of my favourite past- times, in fact I have had to learn to cook again, as Mr Deceitful was an amazing cook so he was in charge all the time of cooking - must say i do miss his curries.  Wow i am blown away by on-line food shopping, for the price of a latte each week i can order on line and pick up at my convenience, whats more last week i got a 'goodie' bag full of great samples that even included a wine bottle - how to get to my heart, Countdown did it in one week  !!!   This relieves so much stress, and i actually feel organised doing it because each time i run out of something i just go on-line and load it up.  One other aspect I love it that I will go to collect, give my name and jump right to the front of the queue without paying a cent, all done and dusted within 5 minutes. 

My organisational skills have had a re-vamp.  I have even found car washes as well to save time and convenience, even though as a child i always got told they are no good for your cars, I had to  change my  mind set, as  this saved me time,  cost of product and also gave a better polished shine that i would ever have been able to achieve . The next biggest" no no",  if my father was still alive,  was getting someone to mow the lawns, dad always did this every Sunday morning as a weekly ritchal , well for $10.00 i get this done and don't even need to worry about when to do it, it is all taken care of for me, and scheduled - the smell of freshly cut lawns greets me a surprise moments - love it .   Convenience, you gotta say,  although it might cost a wee bit, you really need to start looking for the value of your time.  Working four days a week, time is of the essence, so when convenience comes in i don't mind giving up a coffee or two to remain sane.

Routine is another necessity.  I have learnt how to plan my nights, if Miss Moo is not in bed by 7.30 then the night turns into a disaster.  We must have feeding done and clothes organised before we go to bed, and of course the most important thing - the teeth cleaned and we have a routine of three books a night.  One value of routine is that I am teaching Miss Moo to tell the time, she knows when it is seven o'clock now !!!

The funky abode is getting my smells in it, I have just sold some lovely furniture tonight which was just too big to place, so we are slowly starting to get organised, and i have purchased some modern furniture !!.  I purchased some hearts this week which are kinda funky and these have been placed in the hall with the approval of Miss Moo.

The next challenge on the cards is renovations, laundry, kitchen and hallway are the target areas - crikey all i can see is $$$$ being spend - time to get my energy up to bargain hunt and negotiate without over capitalising.

Signing off feeling a little more organised  thanks to the help of Countdown Supermarkets.


Lots of love

IFM

Welcome . 

This is the beginning of my new life.

 After seven years of marriage it has ended, and we have parted ways, sold our huge house and moved on.

 The feeling is one of happiness, relief, joy but at the same time an ounce of failure does creep into the positives. 

I have just purchased my new house, which i will call the funky abode.  It is not a mansion but it is a little funky and it means that i can do anything i want in it - my first purchase was pink towels.  The theme i am going to build on, for this funky abode, is hearts everywhere - it is going to be my house to rebuild my strength and learn to love again.

 I have the most delightful three year old little girl who is in my custody, although Mr Deceitful and i are amicable  she comes and goes every second weekend and every times she needs a dad injection, after all no matter what we have gone thru he will always be her father and i will never be able to take that away from her, just as long as he promotes his positives traites  on her i will be happy.

 It has been two weeks in the funky abode and have to say the first week was the most stressful.  What i thought would be a happy occasion was actually the reverse.  Setting up telephone accounts, power accounts and all the likes and then having to deal with many many boxes was another distraught occasion.  The biggest mental challenge has been down sizing, going from a four bedroom mansion to a 3 bedroom townhouse - mentally the most challenging.  I am a woman of very driven and high goal setting achievements, i look at this as a bit of a backward step, but after a few wines and a few cries with my wonderful friends and family i realise that the bank and i own the house, it is mine mine mine to do what i want and to bring life and personality to it - it is up to me to make it a success.  i do not see this as my place of permanent residence - eventually my goal is to upgrade, but lets get sorted first i say !!!



The reason for my name "independently funky mum" is because i dislike the word "solo mum", blah that leaves a horrible distaste in my mouth, and i think any woman that can bring up a child/ren on their own deserve a funky title - its gonna be tough work, but hopefully this blogging site will be my release for my anger, my highs, my feelings and just to let it out and get your support and feedback, and so one day i can sit back and laugh at this journey !!!.

Please sit back enjoy the journey, please make comments and give me feedback, thanks for being part of my journey.

Love of Love , The Idependently funky mum